Truth & Consequences [ABRIDGED]

I posed a question to my oldest son, who my wife and I had just caught in a days long lie that he had hoped would never come to light. After the shock and disappointment passed, I sat down to talk with him and dropped it on him:
“If no one ever found out, why is the truth still important?”
He’s a fairly introverted kid, so I gave him some time to think and come up with some answers. Over the course of several hours he came up with a few good answers- but also revealed his heart posture:
“Because it’s a bad example for my little brothers.”
Yes, but remember, let’s say no one ever found out. Half an hour later:
“Because you and mom want me to be like Jesus.”
Oof. Closer, but shows clearly that he isn’t relating directly to Jesus. Remember, let’s say we don’t know about it. What happens to you? Later, just before bed:
“Because if I tell a lie I get used to telling lies and pretty soon they turn into big lies and I end up in jail.”
Sure, that’s true and that could happen. But man, it’s still so externally motivated… so I boiled it down to the essence for him, and it turned into a good reminder for me.
If you have hidden sin in your life, you have rejected Jesus sacrifice on the cross (poignant point the day after Easter) and put yourself in opposition to God himself. It’s like choosing sides against God and it’s not a good place to be.
I continued.
The Holy Spirit visits you to teach you, encourage you, give you joy, but as He nears, He senses that hidden stain and draws away. After some time like that, soon the Bible seems boring, church seems dumb, and instruction from your parents just makes you angry.
He was fully engaged and our gaze was locked.
After a bit, you’ll begin to withdraw from your relationship with God and then with us, and then it’ll start to hurt other people around you. Run towards God with your sin, not away from Him.
After a few more minutes of talking he was quiet and staring off into the distance, so I wrapped it up, laid on some extra love and affection, and hit the lights. Asking the Spirit to meet with all my boys tonight.




I’ve been in some lively discussions with Jesus people and normal people alike about what role fear should have in our relationship to God. The debate usually centers around the idea that perfect love drives out fear, and if God is love, we shouldn’t be afraid.